How to Make Friends When You Don’t Know Anyone Yet

Walking into a dance class or social event where you don’t know a single person can feel overwhelming. But here’s the good news: West Coast Swing (WCS) is one of the most welcoming dance communities out there. It’s built around connection—both on and off the dance floor. If you’re shy, introverted, or just not sure how to break the ice, don’t worry. Here’s how to make friends, even when you’re starting with a room full of strangers.

1. Start with a Smile

A smile is the easiest way to let people know you’re approachable. When you arrive, smile at people and say a simple “hi.” Most dancers remember what it’s like to be new and will be more than happy to welcome you.

2. Join the Partner Rotation

In group classes, WCS often uses a rotation where you switch partners every few minutes. This is your golden opportunity to introduce yourself and meet new people without feeling awkward. A simple “Hi, I’m [your name], nice to meet you!” goes a long way.

3. Say Yes to Dances

At social dances, saying “yes” when someone asks you to dance is a great way to connect. Even if you’re nervous or just starting out, most dancers will appreciate your willingness to try. After the dance, you can strike up a quick chat:

“How long have you been dancing WCS?”
“What’s your favorite song to dance to?”

These small interactions build connections over time.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Someone to Dance

You don’t have to wait to be asked—go for it! Asking someone to dance is easy:

Walk up and say, “Would you like to dance?”
Keep it light and friendly. Most people will say yes.

If someone declines, don’t take it personally—just smile and move on to the next person.

5. Stick Around After Class or Socials

Some of the best friendships are formed off the dance floor. After class or a social dance, stick around for a few minutes to chat. You can:

• Thank people you danced with.
• Compliment their dancing: “You were really fun to dance with!”
• Join group conversations that are already happening.

6. Attend Regularly

The more often you show up, the more familiar you’ll become to the community. People will start recognizing you, and friendships will happen naturally over time.

Pro tip: Showing up regularly makes asking someone to dance (or being asked) much easier because you become part of the familiar crowd.

7. Volunteer or Help Out

Many dance events and classes rely on volunteers to set up and keep things running smoothly. Offer to help, and you’ll quickly get to know the organizers and other regulars. It’s a great way to feel like part of the community.

8. Be Patient With Yourself

Building friendships takes time, especially when you’re stepping out of your comfort zone. Give yourself credit for showing up and trying something new—you’re already doing great! The more you dance and the more people you meet, the easier it will get.

Why West Coast Swing is Perfect for Making Friends

West Coast Swing is more than a dance—it’s a community. It’s about connection, conversation, and having fun with others, no matter your skill level. Whether you’re introverted, outgoing, or somewhere in between, you’ll find people who are there for the same reason: to enjoy the music, socialize, and share a great dance.

So, take a deep breath, put on your dance shoes, and show up—you’ll be surprised how quickly strangers become friends.